Heterosexual men are more likely to play the field, and heterosexual women must compete for men’s attention.Of course, tales of scarce men and sexual permissiveness in ancient Sparta won’t convince everyone, so I began to explore the demographics of modern religion.On a lark, I emailed my friend Cynthia Bowman,* a devout Mormon who grew up in Salt Lake City and returns there often, and asked her whether Mormon sex ratios are as lopsided as the ARIS study claimed.[Editor’s note: “Cynthia Bowman” is a pseudonym, as are other names denoted with an asterisk.
According to legend, if you follow their thirty rules for courtship and dating, the man you have always dreamed of will ask you out, woo you, treat you like the queen you are, and eventually propose. And Sunday dinners and taking a plate of brownies over to a guy you like is an expected commonplace occurrence?
And this I know not only by experience but by reports from non-LDS friends who have dated Mormons.
Look, many Mormon youth leaders inveigh against French kissing or making out, but lots and lots of Mormon kids do it and don’t worry about it. And the only way to find out how your Mormon girl feels about all of this and what she truly wants is to ask her directly.
I recently read a very interesting article in Time Magazine about the LDS (and Jewish) dating scene.
I have a particular interest in this as I have a daughter in her late 30s that was widowed last year due to cancer, and she lives in Utah County.